The honeymoon is over. Maybe you’ve been together a few months, a few years,
or even a lot of years. At some point, though, the early flames of passion will
fade and you’ll start looking for ways to Spark the passion...
Take a moment to read all of this article and share it with your partner...
1. Have Fun Together - Humor can be very intoxicating!
Remember the fun times you had when you first started dating? You
laughed, you played, and you spent time enjoying each other’s company.
There’s no reason for the fun to stop just because you’ve been together
for a while. Share Jokes and Cartoons - watch comedy - Just Laugh More!
Think about some of these options:
·Collect cartoons or jokes that your spouse will enjoy
·Play a game together, like checkers or backgammon
·Do something unexpected to surprise your spouse
·Do a puzzle together
·Make popcorn and watch a favorite movie
Remember: Keep the Relationship built on Trust!
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2. Be A Fun & Happy Romantic
What did you used to do when the two of you were romancing each other?
Jump start the romance by going back to some of those previous activities
that generated warm feelings. Maybe you used to:
·Eat dinner by candlelight
·Hide a love note in your spouse’s lunch
·Build a fire and relax in front of it
·Take a walk in the moonlight
Read Poetry to each other in the Park on a blanket
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3. Go Back To Dating like it was! - Remember ?
One way to jump start your relationship is to “date” each other again. Add
to the fun by calling to ask each other out, and the one doing the asking
then plans the date. To make it more challenging, set a budget limit for
the date. You’d be amazed at how much fun it is to be creative and plan
a date for $40 or less.
Once you’re on the date, treat each other as you did when you were first
getting acquainted. Men, open the car door for your lady. Women, put
on a special dress and flirt with your gentleman.
Remember: You deserve to be in a Healthy relationship!
4. Do The Little Things - & it is okay to Be Sensitive
The day-to-day grind of life can really wear you down, and at those times
paying attention to the little things gets harder. It’s more important then
ever, though, that you make the extra effort to do the little things that
your spouse will really appreciate.
You could:
Make a point to give your partner a hug and a kiss each morning
before you leave and each evening when you get home.
Remember to say please and thank you on a regular basis.
Pick the chore your spouse dislikes the most, and do it for him or her
without being asked - wow - what a unique idea!
Say “I love you” often, not just when you think it’s expected...
Being Spontaneous is exciting!
5. Be Physical -Starting with the Brain!
Being physical means touching her arm, a foot massage, a scalp massage,
holding his hand, offering a gentle caress or neck rub after a tough day. And
when the two of you do move towards having sex, don’t just turn out the lights
and get on with it every time. Seduce each other a bit, light some candles and
take a bubble bath together. As pleasurable as sex is, doing the same thing
the same way every time gets boring so spice things up a bit and you’ll be
amazed at what will happen.
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Monday, February 14, 2011
Two Keys to a Happy Marriage by Kevin Miller
Almost every marriage starts out as a huge celebration. Together with their family and friends, each couple is full of hopes and dreams for their future life together. But the road to a happy marriage is far from easy. And as today’s divorce statistics demonstrate all too well, many couples opt not to complete the journey.
It would be easy to blame our high rate of marital failure on things like not spending enough quality time together, allowing bitterness and resentment to build in our hearts and failing to keep communication lines open. There’s no end to books, articles and seminars that tell you how to improve these and many other aspects of your relationship. But while quality time, forgiveness and communication are vitally important to creating a happy marriage, if such things aren’t happening, it’s usually a sign of a much deeper problem. And until this problem is addressed, no amount of external behavior modification will work.
To get a hint of what this deeper issue might be, let’s take a look at the following Scripture passage:
One of them, an expert in the law, tested him [Jesus] with this question: "Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?"
Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments." (Matthew 22:35-40)
I believe that virtually every marital problem can be traced back to one or both partners failing to abide by these two laws. The same is true of any relationship. The minute we begin to focus on our own wants and needs over those of God or our partner; we’re destined for trouble.
Experiencing communication problems in your marriage? How often do you really focus on listening to what your partner (or God) has to say instead of insisting on more airtime? Feeling bitterness and resentment growing toward your partner? When was the last time you brought him or her before the Lord in prayer and truly thanked God for your relationship? Struggling to find quality time together? How about praying with your partner and asking God how he would like you to use your time?
As you begin to do these things, you’ll notice that your focus automatically starts to shift away from you and your desires and over to God and your partner. As a result, communication problems begin to improve, anger and resentment fade away and you naturally want to spend more time together. Of course, you can’t expect such changes to happen overnight. Your relationship is also bound to face financial pressures, childrearing issues and other problems that are beyond your control. But if you commit your relationship to God and make a conscious decision each day to put God and your partner first, your marriage will be able to weather any storm. Not only that; you’ll also have plenty of fun together along the way!
Have you struggled to find happiness in your marriage? Perhaps it’s time you and your spouse invited God to direct your relationship. If you would like to do so, we encourage you to pray the following:
"Dear God, thank you so much for bringing us together as a couple. We know that you have a plan and a purpose for our marriage, and we invite you to forgive the past self-centeredness, come into our lives and relationship and direct our steps from now on. Please give us the grace to put you and each other first every day. Make our relationship a blessing to others. But most of all; make it a blessing to you. Amen."
It would be easy to blame our high rate of marital failure on things like not spending enough quality time together, allowing bitterness and resentment to build in our hearts and failing to keep communication lines open. There’s no end to books, articles and seminars that tell you how to improve these and many other aspects of your relationship. But while quality time, forgiveness and communication are vitally important to creating a happy marriage, if such things aren’t happening, it’s usually a sign of a much deeper problem. And until this problem is addressed, no amount of external behavior modification will work.
To get a hint of what this deeper issue might be, let’s take a look at the following Scripture passage:
One of them, an expert in the law, tested him [Jesus] with this question: "Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?"
Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments." (Matthew 22:35-40)
I believe that virtually every marital problem can be traced back to one or both partners failing to abide by these two laws. The same is true of any relationship. The minute we begin to focus on our own wants and needs over those of God or our partner; we’re destined for trouble.
Experiencing communication problems in your marriage? How often do you really focus on listening to what your partner (or God) has to say instead of insisting on more airtime? Feeling bitterness and resentment growing toward your partner? When was the last time you brought him or her before the Lord in prayer and truly thanked God for your relationship? Struggling to find quality time together? How about praying with your partner and asking God how he would like you to use your time?
As you begin to do these things, you’ll notice that your focus automatically starts to shift away from you and your desires and over to God and your partner. As a result, communication problems begin to improve, anger and resentment fade away and you naturally want to spend more time together. Of course, you can’t expect such changes to happen overnight. Your relationship is also bound to face financial pressures, childrearing issues and other problems that are beyond your control. But if you commit your relationship to God and make a conscious decision each day to put God and your partner first, your marriage will be able to weather any storm. Not only that; you’ll also have plenty of fun together along the way!
Have you struggled to find happiness in your marriage? Perhaps it’s time you and your spouse invited God to direct your relationship. If you would like to do so, we encourage you to pray the following:
"Dear God, thank you so much for bringing us together as a couple. We know that you have a plan and a purpose for our marriage, and we invite you to forgive the past self-centeredness, come into our lives and relationship and direct our steps from now on. Please give us the grace to put you and each other first every day. Make our relationship a blessing to others. But most of all; make it a blessing to you. Amen."
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